Who do you need to become

Most of the time, when we set to achieve our life goals, we often ask ourselves, what do I need to do to achieve this goal?

Though this is a good question, this shouldn’t be the first thing to do.

What you should ask is, “Who do I need to become to achieve this goal?”

You should also take into consideration the personal characteristics you need to have.

One of the quotes that expresses this thought is from Jim Rohn.

“The only way it gets better for you is when you get better. Better is not something you wish, it’s something you become.”

Darren Hardy, author of The Compound Effect and publisher of Success Magazine focused on this idea.

He provided an example to illustrate the significance of becoming the person worthy of achieving this goal.

Example By Darren Hardy

“When I was single and ready to find my wife and be married, I made a long list of the qualities of the perfect woman (for me). I filled up more than 40 pages describing my wife to be in great detail—her personality, character, key attributes, attitudes and philosophies about life, tastes, interests, even what kind of family she’d come from, culture, and of course physical makeup down to the texture of her hair, etc. I wrote in depth what our life would be like and what we’d do together.

I then looked back at every aspect on the list and asked if I had those attributes myself. Additionally, I asked myself this question: What kind of a man would a woman like this be looking for? Who do I need to become to be attractive to a woman of this substance?

I made a long list of all the traits, qualities, behaviors, attitudes and characteristics that I assumed a woman of this caliber would be looking for in a man. Then I went to work on becoming this person.

Guess what? It worked! As if she was peeled off the pages of my journal and appeared in front of me, my wife is exactly what I described and asked for, in almost eerie detail. The key for me was getting clear on who I’d have to be to attract and keep a woman of her quality, and doing the work to achieve that (and I’m still working on keeping that part!).”

Action Steps to do

1. Identify your most important goal and make it specific and clear as possible as you can. If it is clear and specific, you have a better chance of achieving it
2. Determine who you have to become to be able to achieve that goal. Identify the personal characteristics and traits you need to have to be worthy of this goal. Remember, success is something you attract by the person you become.
3. Make a commitment to do the necessary work to become this person.

“When you become a millionaire, it’s not the million dollars that makes you valuable. It’s the person you become in the process.” – Jim Rohn